Unselfish Love

The innate nature of all beings is to love an external object – we cannot but cherish something in the heart. For, truly, the absolute alone is existent. Man is only an ego, apparently separated from it. Love for external things is an unconscious internal urge to become unified with everything. For, in reality, man…

The Child Will Understand You

There is a beautiful Tamil lullaby: “Oh my beautiful baby, I call you my baby. I don’t know who you are and who I am. I don’t know what this relationship is. Where did you come from? Where are you going to go? It happens that we are together. You are my baby, I am…

Nice, Soothing Stories

The parents should make the children forget their worries by telling them some nice, soothing stories—something with which they can go to sleep, something that will help them have peaceful dreams. That’s what bedtime stories are for, so that the children won’t have anything disturbing in their minds. The stories should be something like this:…

Put Yourself in the Other Person’s Place

Question: Often I see others making a mistake and would like to suggest another way of handling things. How can I do it without making others react defensively? Answer: Do it in a gentle way. The reason others become defensive is that you are immediately putting blame on them. They don’t want to accept that.…

A Beautiful Field

If you choose the path of marriage, it is a beautiful field in which to learn the great qualities of sharing and sacrificing. Before you marry, ask yourself, “Can I share my love and my life with someone? Can I dedicate my whole life to that person?” After marriage your life becomes divided—a little for…

To Which Category Do You Belong?

We all have a duty toward our children, our parents, our neighbors, our sisters, our brothers, toward everything with which we come into contact. We have a duty toward the land that brings us food, toward the rain that brings us water, toward nature. We are constantly getting things from nature, and we have to…

It Will Last a Long Time

If you get married to depend on someone, that’s not a real marriage. Marriage is equal sharing of life. You both go toward the goal together, helping each other. There should be assistance, not dependence. If you depend on the other person and you don’t get what you were expecting, it will disturb your marriage.…

Universe-ity

The entire universe is a university. Everything and everybody is a professor to us. We constantly learn from everybody and everything. We learn even more through pain than through pleasure. Whether we want it to or not, the world will give us the experiences we need and make us grow.